Avoid Turkey Table Talk Blunders

Okay, let’s face it, not all families enjoy getting together to celebrate the holidays. If you are fortunate to be invited to a Thanksgiving dinner with family and friends, relax. Try these “Top Talking Tips” to avoid quitting the family gatherings “cold turkey. ”

1.) Remember too much talking, as in second and third helpings, means you are over stuffing the conversation. Invite others to the table talk.

2.) Consider all the guests and their interests. If your sibling does not have children, refrain from talking nonstop about your darlings. Family gatherings are good opportunities to teach your children not to interrupt or yell over Grandpa while he is talking.

3.) Find conversation topics that provide everyone a chance to weigh in. For example, ask generic questions such as:  Has anyone read a new book topping the bestseller  lists, or a book you just finished reading? Is there a film release getting buzz that you or others have seen? If you could live anytime in history, when would it be and why? Questions about the first Thanksgiving are an educational romp through history and inviting the children to share what they have learned in school about the holiday is a great way to engage them in the conversation. For an insight as to how guests see themselves, pose the scenario, “If they produced a film about your life, who would star as you?” Avoiding bringing up past misgivings or grievances. Too many pops of alcohol add fuel to leftover issues.

4.) Ask direct questions. If a relative just launched a new startup, inquire about how it’s going. If the in-laws aren’t at the table, ask about them. It shows your sensitive side.

5.) Last, but essential, avoid the P-word. That’s right, this is the first holiday after the election. Everyone is still talking about, or reeling, from the results. If your candidate won, stop yourself from boasting or the “I told you so,” remarks.  If your candidate of choice lost, it is too late to convert your family. You had about two years before November 8th.

Keep in mind, the spirit of Thanksgiving is a festive day for family, friends and food with the focus on gratitude. You can find some positive qualities, even for your least favorite relative, to be grateful for on this day. Happy Thanksgiving!